Will I ever be understood?

Will I ever be understood?

This is the perpetual question in every mind. We all have our rights and wrongs. Every one of us lives by certain principles. Principles that we have considered right by our upbringings, education, peer groups and the careers we choose along with many other factors. However there are times when we are grossly misunderstood, our efforts unrecognized, our thoughts and inputs underestimated. And these are the times when we feel wholly undone. And to make matters worse, there are times when these efforts are seen in just the opposite sense, than it was meant.

So why does this happen? How are the best intentions, hardest honest efforts, the most honest facts denied? How can someone stay unaware of whatever you have done for them? When will the world see the reality behind the intention of your deeds and word? This is a question that has kept many a mind in quandary over the years. Is it just a matter of missed or misunderstood communication? Has there been fact that have gone unseen by the world, facts that are crystal clear even in the darkest of nights?

Come to think of it, it could be any of this or some other factors. There are even occasions when these are purposely negated just to spite someone, to show them in a bad light. It may even be an attempt to belittle someone in the heat of anger. There are also occasions when these misunderstandings or lack of sight maybe effected by small changes that someone failed to notice. While we may all seek and find reasons for all this the person who is misunderstood or purposely offended get no respite in finding a reason. He continues to be offended and slighted. This is the fate of not just a few people. Most of us have at one point of time or the other been hurt. But does it have any solution? Can such offenses or slighting be avoided and if purposely poised be defended against?

It is indeed possible. One of the best ways to stop being offended, slighted, insulted and blamed is to make your purpose transparent and very clearly mentioned. If possible do so in print or paper, if not use digital methodologies. Listed below are a few examples of how misunderstandings can be avoided.

You are to do something for someone. It would be a great idea to send a message very clearly mentioning the purpose and the objective. Also mention that there will be action only if it is approved by the other side. This ensures that when something is done, the other side has to acknowledge the result as exactly what was expected. Also when talking of someone or something, make sure that every aspect you want to mention is clearly said and nothing is left unsaid. Otherwise, it may be a good idea not to say anything at all. You would also be greatly helped if you asked prudent questions and very clear answers solicited, if possible in print or online, in a fashion that you cannot be denied.

However with all this said and done, there Are occasions when you will still have to face the fact that you are purposely offended. These are times when it may be a good idea to stop defending but to go on the offense. Purposeful offense is not based on honest reasoning but on the intention to hurt. Here taking a defensive line will push you back on to the back foot and often end up being hurt. Here the best way forth is to take the fight to the other side. There can never be a leeway when someone purposely tries to hurt. These are times when hurting back will be the only way forward for you. There is only one person who can really understand your hurt, which is you. No one else can truly appreciate this.

It is for you to decide to be on the receiving end or to carry the fight back to the offending side. Being hurt will not make a saint of you, defending yours self will always keep you a defender. Taking offense and fighting back will make you someone who has a say. Anyone purposely trying to hurt you will think twice before railing against you.

But then there is always the perpetual question. Will I ever be understood? Will whatever I did be seen in the manner it was meant? Will those who benefit from my effort ever be grateful for what they got or forget it the moment they get it much worse hide the fact from the world? These are question that will never give you answers of any satisfactory levels.