Stop Judging

Stop Judging

Almost everyone has an opinion on everyone else’s appearance. Let us not deny it. We feel some are better than the others. Some people just have the decency to keep it to themselves, a great many don’t. However do we evaluate them or their personality by the dress they wear, the car they drive about in and the airs they carry about them? From the brand of the shirt or the skirt, the model of the car, clubs they frequent, all these are aspects that applies in being judged! We are all guilty of this sometime or the other in life!
People like to think that they can tell a person ́s life story by analysing someone’s appearance, forgetting the fact that it is the shallowest of all analysis. The problem today is that there isn’t an outfit that anyone can wear without being judged. The problem in reality is that we are trying to find meaning behind everything, even if there is nothing to find. This is most prevalent in the Indian society, not that it doesn’t exist elsewhere, however here it is at its zenith. Here the local or traditional wear is considered the rock bottom, except on auspicious occasions. If you speak the local language with native tones then you are considered a low level, whereas incorrect use of the local language with liberal English inflections put you on a higher pedestal. The listener often does not realise that the speaker is good at neither.
Then the ultimate attention gatherer is the car. The newer the car, and higher the model and you are the thing. The fact that the usable roads here are hardly suitable for higher model luxury cars in not a matter of concern. The truth that the car had been procured on a loan that is keeping the owner awake at nights, when he isn’t showing off, or the fact that the car can hardly be driven anywhere useful as the roads are unsuitable do not figure in the judgement
Without prejudice, it may be fair to say that women are the more guilty party in this issue. Not only do they spend an absurd amount of time worrying about what they look like, but they are also the ones on the lookout for the faulty nature of others.
There isn’t an all-encompassing solution, but until people stop believing that looks are all that matter and begin to concentrate on what’s inside their heads, things won’t change. The older one gets, the more they realise that society is very judgmental. It also reminds you of those times when you have gone out of your way to comments on the torn shirt your friend wore or the worn out heels of his wife’s shoes. I’m not saying that everyone is judgmental, but a handful of people are. That’s the harsh truth. Often times, it comes down to the way one looks or dresses. It’s going to be a lot harder, if not impossible, to change opinions on people’s perception. You should consider yourself quite adequate when it comes to your clothing choices and do not allow the opinion of others change that. It ultimately about the comfort and cleanliness of what you wear
When we judge someone we are being judges too. We are always being pitted against each other. In fact the advent of social media instead of building bridges, build walls. There is always an unannounced competition and somehow everyone is unwittingly an enemy. However for someone who doesn’t judge by the looks or airs, there is the freedom to see things as they really are. They do not allow their ill-judged opinions to take them adrift of the truths and they have the time to see, hear and understand what others say. This make them trustworthy and dependable
To start off, just because somebody dresses a certain way does not mean that’s how they are. For example, if someone is wearing designer clothing head to toe, that doesn’t necessarily mean they have money, or came from a rich background. If a person is wearing old and worn out clothing, that does not make them poor. They could totally have money, they just don’t spend it on clothes. You simply don’t know. Stereotyping is not good fashion, don’t wear it. Just because someone drives a compact does not diminish his value. He may just be sensible enough to know that the compact handle better on narrow roads.
Secondly, people have different styles and tastes. Everyone has the right to express themselves and some people do so by dressing up, driving around, affecting airs etc.. Some do not. Sure, somebody may have a style completely different from yours, but that doesn’t make them any less of a person than you are. People need to dress up for themselves, not for everyone else. They need to choose their activities in a way that is needed and not to impress others.
Lastly, we tend to pick people apart. Rather than focusing on what others are wearing, we need to focus on their great qualities. There is so much more to a person than what they wear. You may not like the way a person dresses but could love their personality. As a society in general, we need to look more for the good in people, not the bad. Easier said than done, totally. But it doesn’t hurt to try!