Social gatherings

Social gatherings

Social thinking is a skill. Social is not just about being able to make friends. It is more than just hanging around other people, talking and sometimes just having fun. Social involves using your brain to think, collectively, to figure out how to be around other people. The really important part of being social is thinking about other people and trying to figure out what they’re thinking about you. It happens whenever you are near another person, even if you have no plans to ever talk to that person! Now the doing part of social thinking is what we usually call social skills. Social thinking happens before the social skills. In our society, we have to interact with other people in order to survive. We interact with our family members, our classmates and teacher, when we shop for groceries. When we are at our work place, in the tea shop or in a conference room, we are always expected to be using social thinking and subsequent good social skills.
At any Social Gathering, you can expect to meet others, similar and yet different from you. Gatherings will focus on various topics or concerns related to the society and the nation at large.
Here we are as much learning as we are teaching.
However people with deviant views behave differently at social gatherings. There are those who use these gatherings for different reasons. People who are there to make themselves noticeable to all around. They over react, create a ruckus looking for approval all around. They laugh aloud to make themselves heard and rush around making their presence felt. Then there are those who stay aloof, wishing someone would notice them. They pretend to be uninterested but have their mind completely in there, hoping someone will give them some attention.
And then there are the groups. This is the gang mentality of the crowd. It is where a few choose to be different from the rest. They are either trying to hide in the small grouping or trying to be in a nest that is higher than the rest. Both ways, neither helps the true social purpose of the gathering and is counterproductive. Such people are nuisances in any gathering