Not all friends are true friends

Not all friends are true friends

Betrayal in personal relationships refers to the violation of your trust by someone close to you. Be it a friend or relative, it tends to hurt you. Friends have a great role to play in every life. Friends are important to have for our physical and mental health. For example, science says their caring can reduce your stress levels and gives you a sense of belonging. The longer your friendship, the deeper you feel. However when a friend crosses the line, their betrayal can be devastating. So, it makes sense that a person might not be as open to future friendships after such a hurt.
True friends are usually those who offer you support, improve your quality of life, promote self-confidence, provide honesty and unconditional love, and help you progress mentally. It often takes time and effort to foster deep, healthy friendships. You might find new friends at schools, colleges or workplaces. Most often they are the ones who share your interests and values. Having a real friend can provide comfort, safety, and companionship.
Yet it is when the friend betrays you or puts you in spots of bother, that you feel totally devastated. Especially, if the bondage has held over years and you yourselves have committed a great deal in nurturing it. It is only natural that when someone you have helped and offered support, betrays you, that you feel absolutely defeated. In fact this even affects your physical wellness. Life teaches you a few lessons and I have tried to enumerate a few of them
We have at one point of time or other disagreed with our friends and been angry with them. If we are angry at our friend, we may badmouth them to another friend. That’s understandable. But if a “friend” is talking trash about you with the intention of spreading rumours or trying to change people’s perception about you, buddy, that’s not your friend. If you care about a person, you will never try to hurt their reputation.
Real friends won’t ask you to ditch your wardrobe or change the way you speak just because they consider it unfashionable. Real friends will instead help you be your best self and appreciate your choices. On the other hand, fake friends will make sure you always fit into their definition of stylish and trendy, or within their idea of the perfect member of their social group, or they bid you farewell.
Fake Friends will be intensely jealous of your accomplishments, unless it benefits them. There is even a great chance that they may try to deprive you of it, if they can. This is the kind of friend that you certainly need to watch out for. Remember that a true friend will be genuinely happy to see you succeed and flourish at all times. A fake one will have a sour mind in your presence and a sour one when you are not around.
And the ones to watch out for the most. The ones who come only when they see gains out of you. Fake friends will only contact you when they need you. Keep in mind fake friends will only be only be physically present when they need something from you.