Is love real?

Is love real?

Much is written about love. … Some common definitions of love found in the dictionary mention feelings of affection and attachment for another. Feelings of connectedness and goodwill, warm affection or devotion, sexual desire and attraction are also used to describe love. There is the extreme argument that one could say that human beings have one sole purpose that is to love and be loved. It seems we do many things that have underlying themes of love and affection, our primary motive of seeking some form of love and happiness. Is our desire to experience the ultimate feeling of love the most important theme of our lives? For many, somewhere deep inside of us is an insecurity, a feeling that we are not good enough. This feeling makes us do things in the hope that we will be loved. But when you try describing love, it is even more important to understand what love isn’t.

Love is dynamic and requires action to thrive. Often, we spend our time worrying about what someone you love, for instance your life partner, feels toward us or how the relationship looks from the outside. Even though it feels good to be loved by someone else, each one of us can only really feel our loving feelings for another person and not that person’s feelings for us. In order to connect with and sustain those loving feelings within us, we have to take actions that are loving. Otherwise, we may be living in fantasy. At times it may feel frustrating, but it’s actually pretty empowering to accept the fact that the only person we have any true control over in a relationship is ourselves. We are in charge of our half of the dynamic. Therefore, we can choose whether to engage in behaviors that are destructive to intimacy or whether to take actions that express feelings of love, compassion, affection, respect, and kindness.

Love is a set of emotions and behaviors characterized by intimacy, passion, and commitment. It involves care, closeness, protectiveness, attraction, affection, and trust. Love can vary in intensity and can change over time. It is associated with a range of positive emotions, including happiness, excitement, life satisfaction, and euphoria, but it can also result in negative emotions such as jealousy and stress. Lasting relationships are marked by deep levels of trust, commitment, and intimacy.

There are something that love isn’t. For one, a feeling of ownership is perhaps one thing that love never is. Love can never be subduing and will never imprison. Instead it seeks to empower and free. Another thing that love isn’t is deep passion. While those in love or has a feeling of love for one another have attached feelings of passion, passion alone is never a mark of love. But most importantly, love is never something that seeks to change someone into something else. If you love someone, you do so accepting them for what they already are. True there are time when you need to help them make adjustments and small changes, but never will love seek to convert someone wholly into something else. Love accepts, not rebuilds.

Well is love real? The answer depends on who loves and how you love.