Happiness Habits

Happiness Habits

Happiness should not be an elusive thing, or an evasive thing. It should not be an abstract ideal. It should be right here, right now, and part of our journey, wherever we go. Even if we have to work at it, as many of us do, it is fine, but the key is to know how to install happiness into our lives.

Focus on Fulfilments

When you live a meaningful life, you make your actions, your choices, and your moments count. You achieve this by deciding who you want to be, and what experiences do you want to create.

A simple strategy to focus on fulfilment is to focus on “the greater good” and give your best where you have your best to give. It’s about playing to your unique strengths, and sharing your gifts with the world, or more specifically, your world. This will help you rise above the trials and tribulations of daily living, and help you find a higher ground.

Do more meaningful things, by making meaning in the things that you already do, and choose to do. You are the most significant meaning maker in your life. A simple way to add more meaning is to identify a mission or a cause or a message you believe in.

Spend More Time in Your Values

Living your values is one of the simplest ways to add more happiness to every day. If you spend a lot of time at work, the best way to make the most of it, is to connect your work to your values. For example, if you like to learn, then master your craft. If you like to help others, then find a way to contribute and give back, using your skills, experience, and knowledge. If you value excellence, then make your work about excellence.

When you spend more time in your values, you enjoy the journey more, regardless of the destination.

Set Your Own Happiness Level

We each have our own happiness level. Set a scale of 1 to 10Some people have an overall happiness of an 8 or 9 out of 10. For others, it’s more like a 5 or a 6. Embrace it, and start from where you are.

One of the best things you can do is find simple ways to gradually improve your overall happiness level. One of the worst things you can do is compare your happiness level to others, or beat yourself up for not being a shiny, happy person.

As simple as it sounds, I know several people that lead happier lives now, simply because they don’t worry about whether they are beaming with sunshine at every waking moment. They focus more on living their values, and focusing on fulfilment. The sunshine happens along the way, and in more frequent doses now. Sometimes they just have to take off their shades to see it.

Drive from Happiness

Decide to drive from happiness. Happiness is a decision.

This is where you have to look inside, and answer the tough questions. What do you like to do? What makes you happy? What do you want to do more of?

It’s very easy to keep doing the things that we think others expect from us, or want for us. Instead, look inside and find the things that really do make you happy, and do more of that.

Don’t Fall for the “If-Then” Trap

Don’t say: “I’ll be happy if I get that job,” “I’ll be happy when I get that house,” “I’ll be happy if I get that relationship,”, etc. It’s easy to put your happiness “out there” instead of “right here.”

You know what happens when you finally climb to the top of the mountain? There’s another mountain. That’s the Happiness Conundrum.

The effective strategy is to enjoy the journey. Find your happiness now, here, with what you’ve got, from where you are. You can choose what you focus on. Focus on the things in your life that lift you. That’s the happiness way.

Most importantly, remember that it’s the journey and the destination, and sometimes the journey is all we’ve got, so make the most of it.

Raise Your Frustration Tolerance

If you raise your frustration tolerance, you can instantly raise your overall happiness level on a daily basis.

The beauty of this insight is that it works in an instant. All you have to do is decide not to be frustrated by all the little things that don’t go your way on a daily basis. There are so many things that can cause frustration in your day to day if you let them. Don’t get mad at the tree; go around it. Don’t get frustrated by the traffic, leave earlier. If it happens, it happens. Focus on what you control, and let the rest go. Find the humour in it. Find the lesson.

Here’s how it worked instantly for me: When I found out that frustration tolerance is a limit to happiness, I raised my bar. I was letting too many things in my day to day, set me back.

The key is to practice selective intolerance, so you can live your life at a higher qualify, but roll with the punches, and deal with the setbacks, and go with the flow, while living your vision, mission, and values.

Point Your Camera on Purpose

You’re the director of your life. Point your camera at the things that you want more of.

You get what you focus on. You can point your camera at more pain, or more pleasure. That’s a powerful choice, and it’s a powerful metaphor.

It’s easy to test. Simply start pointing your camera at better scenes each day, and watch what unfolds in yourself, and the world around you.