Ego and Impatience

Ego and Impatience

“The Ego is impatient, it knows its time is limited The Soul is patient, it knows its time is eternal.” Rebecca Baldwin

Egotistic behaviour is the bane of many relationships. So is impatience. They always go hand in hand. We’ve all been impatient—and we’ve all made rash decisions when impatience got the better of us. We have let our egos hurt people close to us and in the long run, ourselves.

Your ego is your conscious mind, the part of your identity that you consider your “self.” If you say someone has “a big ego,” then you are saying he is too full of himself. This is how ego is described. The next steps of ego can make you extremely unpopular. Going further it gets such a bad rap, becoming “megalomania” and “vanity” and all kinds of other nasty things. Ego, when combined with its twin impatience can make life in your vicinity very difficult, even for those who mean you well.

A big ego can, almost certainly will, create rifts in even close relationships. When you are so full of yourself, you do not have space in your mind to consider others at all. Whatever you think centres around you and nothing satisfies your need to fulfil yourself. Essentially you occupy the whole of your world that there is hardly any space in that world for anyone else but your esteemed self. All that exists around you are for the fulfillment of your wishes and desires and ideally for you, they have no right to have their own desires, likes and dislikes. They have no right to disagree with your ideas, even if it be about them and has nothing to do with you. You encroach on the lives of all around.

There are times when your ideas about others do not match with their own. These others tell you to mind your own business and not to bother them. That is when impatience takes over. Anger boils over and you revert with responses that do not do any relationship any good. Many a great relationship has ended in one moment of egotistic impatience. Often this is the beginning of a lifetime of regrets. However since ego stands in the way of any reconciliation and the relationship ends permanently.

Now imagine a union of two people of big egos. This would be a relationship that will feature some of the most turmoil. There will always be the ego that seeks to keep you ahead of all else. Then there is the impatience that will not allow you to make prudent decisions and to let things col down. Inevitably this is one relation that will not last for much.

Ego needs to be balanced. It needs to be maintained where it remains self-respect and identity. Your self should be one with a much larger world than your tiny self. It needs to be remembered that you live in a tiny world when you let you ego grow beyond your real self. If you become one with a moving crowd you move forward, if not you become a bloated immobile being with no forward motion.

The other extreme is your impatience. You have no time for others and you care not to share your time with anyone at all. Such people finally end up being on a constant movement against the flow. There is a natural flow of everything and disrupting it will throw you and the entire process out of sync. .It may be worth remembering that you cannot move the entire world in a manner that you wish it does. The world spins around the sun at its own pace as does everything on earth. You are too small a being to be able to make even a miniscule change to the pace of these cosmic realities. No you can neither speed up nor slow down the pace of happenings around you, leave alone the whole world.

Remember you do not become any less if you wait for someone way below you to catch up or accept him as an equal. Instead you grow big in the vision of those watching you, eventually the whole world.