Birthdays. Celebrations, Reminders or Time to Take Stock?

Birthdays. Celebrations, Reminders or Time to Take Stock?

“Birthdays are your special day of the year. They remind you that you’re growing older, but they also symbolize how far you’ve come. Someone else’s birthday is a cause for celebration and a great excuse to show someone how much you appreciate them. ” These are the common quotes you find on the net, relating to birthdays. Well, can’t help agreeing with much of it. It would seem so, especially on the day. You can’t deny someone a special day for at least once a year. And so be it.

But the day after, is when you sit down to take stock, both of yourself and of all the others. A year has melted down the sides of the candles of time. Have you been able to give out the light, they all expected? Did you burn brightly enough for them to be shown the way, or shed a wee bit of warmth in the cold night? A little less poetically put, has the year that passed you by, been a fruitful one, is prudent question you could well ask yourself.

Birthdays are important because they give everyone a day to feel special and see how much those around them love them. So let us leave the day for the feel good celebrations. But then as the next day dawns, it may be a prudent point to keep the tabs of a years gone by on the table to take a peek at. We all make fun of New Year Resolutions. But what about the resolutions you set forth for the next year of your life? Your objective as you lay down the resolutions for the next year are quite unlike those you set forth for New Year. These are more realistic and take account what you have in your table drawers.

Let us take a looks at the flip sides of Birthday celebrations. Since the day they are born, children are taught to celebrate their birthdays as a special day just for them. On birthdays, everything is supposed to go exactly right and everyone is supposed to be overwhelmingly kind towards the birthday boy or girl. All for just that day…..
Doesn’t it seem a little silly to even congratulate someone on the effort of their parents bringing them into the world? Why does that give everyone a free pass to spend a day every year randomly placing the words “it’s my birthday” into sentences they don’t really make sense in? Society has made us feel like we need this gratification to live, as if of all the things we’ve accomplished in a year, the only thing worth celebrating is the day our mothers did all the work to get us here. Here’s a big secret: if no one congratulates you on your birthday, you still get older!

Your friends circle decides to pop a weirdly coloured cake with candles on to the table. You are supposed to blow the candles off, thus be happy of the fact that that is one year less off your calendar. Come tomorrow and the moments of celebrations are over. This becomes more obvious as you grow older. I can be understood that a child is dressed up for a day and paraded to a party, filled with other such. Think of you being paraded to such a nonsensical function at an older age

There is a time you should expect people to stop getting excited about your birthday. That time is aged 12. Birthdays aren´t really that exciting once you´re into double figures, and not everyone wants to mark milestone birthdays such as 30, 40 or 50. It can all become a bit repetitive, as you end up doing exactly what you did last year at possibly more expense. The social gathering comes over with greetings that make no sense, while hoping just the opposite. One wonders where these well-wishers were yesterday, when you needed help so acutely. And will these cheery faces be there tomorrow.

If you firmly believe that the date on your birth certificate only has a meaning if you allow it to. If you refuse to, then you can keep going ahead without having anything to do with you biological age. No matter what your social or friends circle decides, you age only when you allow yourself to.

Even your club mates or members of your church congregation line up to wish you the very best and shed blessings on you. Will the same crowd be there to give me support tomorrow if your car were to break down? Would they knowingly drop by my house to enquire whether all is well at my end, the day after?

This is a question every birthday boy or girl ought to ask themselves. The fakes smiles and hugs from them that care not for your wellbeing, are in truth a misleader. The give you false hopes and try to point you false friends. The aged man in his mid-eighties and suffering from untold number of diseases is the apple of everyone’s eye, just for that one day. The interest on his wellbeing and care is blown off even quicker than the candle is blown off on his birthday cake. The next day he is the bother of only those who care for him every other day, not the club, not the coterie of relatives not even the church he was christened in.
Just reminding you all one again…..you are one day closer to the final curtains…Your Death!