Being Realistic

Being Realistic

This is a world of unrealistic expectations! Whether it’s the expectation of one complete satisfaction or gratification, conflict-free relationships, success in all we do, or being happy all the time we all fall prey to the sneaky lure of unrealistic expectations. So let us step into the fascinating realm of expectations and their duplicitous influence on our lives.

Expectations loves to set the bar impossibly high and make you feel like a failure for not reaching it. You will say things like, “You should have done better,” “You could have done more,” or “You’re not living up to your potential.” And if you listen to him, you might burn out trying to achieve the unachievable or never be satisfied with who you are or your accomplishments.

Realistic expectations, on the other hand, are grounded in reality. They are achievable and take into account our personal circumstances, limitations, and the complexities of life. While realistic expectations motivate and inspire growth, unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration, disappointment, and even negative impacts on mental health. In our fast-paced world, we want everything now, now, now! But life doesn’t always work that way
You unfortunately can’t control everything! Trying to control external circumstances or people often leads to frustration and disappointment. Likewise you can’t control what others think of you. To burst a large societal bubble, life has its ups and downs. Expecting constant happiness is like expecting Calgary weather to be sunny all year round: no snow, no clouds, and no smoke. Society loves to dictate what’s “normal” or “ideal.” This may be looking a certain way, having a specific body type or choosing a specific career and plan for your life. But guess what? You get to define your own standards.

Relationships are beautiful and wonderful, but they require effort and compromise. Expecting a conflict-free utopia is like expecting free ice cream every day. Relationships have struggles and conflict is inevitable. Having healthy conflict, however, can bring a couple closer; whereas unhealthy conflict can cause serious relational harm.
Another realm of expectations is change. Change takes time, effort, and persistence. Expecting overnight transformations is like expecting to become a pro golfer after one swing. Some typical examples of this is maturing as a manager, or parent; this maturing process takes time, effort and investment in education and practice.
As we begin to recognize potential unrealistic expectations in our lives, Let us look at the dark side of these unrealistic expectations and the havoc they wreak on our lives. When our expectations don’t align with reality, we’re often left feeling disappointed, frustrated, and unfulfilled. The weight of these emotions can take a toll on our mental health. Unrealistic expectations often set impossibly high standards, leaving us feeling inadequate and unworthy. Our self-esteem takes a hit as we constantly compare ourselves to unrealistic ideals.

Expecting perfection in our relationships can lead to constant disappointment and strain. Unrealistic expectations can put undue pressure on our partners, friends, and family members. When we hold ourselves to unrealistically high standards, the fear of failure becomes paralyzing. We may avoid taking risks and challenging ourselves, hindering personal growth and development. The relentless pursuit of unrealistic expectations can leave us feeling overwhelmed and burnt out. The constant pressure to meet impossible standards takes a toll on our mental and physical well-being.